i always wanted to go to public school, i always enjoyed being in high schools and i'm going into 10th grade
I have a good head on my shoulders, But when i ask my parents if i can go they say "NO!" they have the right to want the best for me..but in the end its my choice?.
Does anyone know a way for me to get them to let me go?.
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It doesn't seem like from your other questions and answers that you are socially deprived at all like another answerer has mentioned. I know having a boyfriend (as you imply) means you must have a social life. Not really sure if this is a real question.
That being said, you can sit down and talk to your parents, but it is their choice in the end. Why not get involved with school activities such as sports and clubs? Are you involved in any community events or volunteering activities? Those are some points you may get a little leeway from your parents on. Also, in our state kids can Dual enroll at a local college and start taking classes. My daughter will be graduating High school with an AA degree already under her belt. Maybe you could look into that.
On a personal note, my kids have found that being home schooled gives them the freedom to be themselves and have more time for things they love to do. They are both incredibly busy with clubs, sports, and hanging out with a variety of friends.
well..sadly its their choice but maybe if you went to a high school and set up a meeting for you and your parents then during that meeting your parents could see that it isnt that bad...
Oh I feel sorry for you. Well they will regret forcing you in homeschool when all your need for freedom piles up one day and when you turn 18 you will be hittin' da clubs hard.
just tell them that you need more independence and freedom that comes with age. tell them you want to be around people your own age more, and how it would help further develop your character.
it is THEIR choice, but they really should listen to you. i think there's a certain point where homeschooling should stop.
tell them exactly what u just said
" i would like a LITTLE bit of freedom.
i always wanted to go to public school, i always enjoyed being in high schools and i'm going into 10th grade "
go up to Both of your parents at the same time and say you need to talk to em and say your almost going into the real world and if you dont allready have a job then ask them
if you dont have enough people experince then how do they expect you to deal with people when that time comes ?
If your parents say no, then your s.o.l. Your freedom will come in college... and it seems as if your well on your way there!
Have you considered trying on online school or a homeschool academy? Most of them have email communities for their students and some even have school yearbooks and other extras.
In the end it's your parents decision. I think your parents are probably doing what they think is best for you. High schools aren't all that great! If you have been homeschooled your whole life then you are probably more advanced than other children your age too!
if they won't budge on the home schooling - see if you can get a little more freedom else where - as your parents - they need to do what they feel is right - however, part of being a parent is listening - tell them what you want - maybe you can reach a decision in the middle. If you do have a good head on your shoulders - then you should be able to handle an adult conversation about this - like I said - try to compromise - good luck! - do you have friends in high school? maybe you can go to their dances or some of their activities - meet in the middle!!!
As a very protective parent of 5 boys, and 3 girls, I can tell you that it's hard to "cut the strings" and allow you to begin making decisions on your own, even if we know deep down you'll make a good choice it's still hard to let go. We have 18 short years to lead you into adult hood, and unfortunalty it sneeks up on us faster than we realized.
My advise would be to aproach them in a "nonthreating" (lol) manner, and nogotiated something clever...for instance: ask for a semester in the public school system, say something like, if grade fall, attitude changes, etc..then you'll go back quietly.
There is a ryme behind your parents reason. I myself have transfer students into a better school in our area. They have smaller classrooms, higher GPA's right along with better teaching standards, honestly there are many more reasons but I'm sure you get my point.
Last year my 14 year old daughter decided she wanted to go to the school in our district. For years I've explained to the kids why I chose to put them into a different school outside our district, and for the most part even if they didn't understand they were ok with it. So when she approached me with her concerens I made an appointment to go meet the teachers, students and coaches.....we never made it into the principles office, after she seen the secrety guard, and the mile long line of students calling home with detention she had seen enough, turned to me smiled and said."ok, you proved your point! Can we go home now!"
Talk to them, respect there decisions, and only judge them after you've physically walked a mile in their shoes...(after you become a mommy)
Good Luck, Jennifer
Ask them if they are planning on letting you go to college and if so do they want that to be the first time you are ever in school with others? If they don't want you to go to college or they want you to live at home while you go do they plan on having you live in their house forever?
Honestly, aren't there other ways you can get freedom? How about concurrent enrollment at a community college? Co op classes? A job or apprentice/mentoring position?
Trust me, high school isn't all it's cracked up to be. It's not all bad, but I certainly wouldn't choose it just for the freedom. Being homeschooled, if your day is anything like ours, you don't have bells telling you where to go and when; you don't have to raise your hand and get a pass just to go to the bathroom; you don't have to deal with lesson plans that aren't meant primarily for you, and the repetition or quick instruction that goes with that; and you aren't used to the drama and danger that can come with high school. Danger varies according to where you live, but drama is pretty much the same everywhere.
Since you only have a few years left, you may find them better used trying to further your plans for your future. Check into programs at your community college and co op classes that are available to you. Take some classes online that can count both toward high school and college. Find ways to be active in your community. There really is life beyond high school...and life outside of it.
Sorry, in the end it is NOT your choice. The decision is up to your parents who are the ones who have say in matters as long as you are a minor and under their roof.
You first of all need to understand *why* they don't want you to go. They may have some very valid reasons that you don't know anything about. They may have talked to parents of kids who go to the high schools or may have heard or read more stories about what's going on. They may be more aware of test scores and the like. Or, in their years of experience on this planet, may just be able to see something that you can't. For example, I know a teen who, for the longest time, kept his hair really long. He saw lots of skateboarders doing the same. He couldn't see how adults saw that the unkempt look gave a bad impression. Fast-forward two years and he now hates having his hair long because he has been able to see a little more what it is that adults and other kids see.
On the flip side, they may not have any real specific issues, just something general, that you can discuss. There are so many potential issues it's impossible to provide you any suggestions on how to handle them. Listen to what your parents have to say and consider what they're saying and then do research afterwards, if applicable, to counteract it. Deal with it maturely and you may be able to make a deal of some sort to be allowed to try out a semester or something. But you have to really hear out their concerns and provide a means of assuring them their fears won't take place. This may involve setting up a contract of some sort in terms of behaviours or grades or whatever is related to their worries.
If a bit of freedom is what you desire, you don't need to go to public school. In fact, public schools are the places where teens have the least amount of freedom: you still need to ask permission to get up, talk, go to the bathroom, etc. You are told what class to be in a what time, can't be late or you risk detentions, have to sit through class at the teacher's pace then go home and do that teacher's homework assignments, all of which take up a huge chunk of your time: 7 hours of school and a typical 2.5-3+ hours of homework each night. Freedom? I don't think so. If it's a bit of space you want, then find out about volunteer opportunities, jobs, activities with other homeschooled teens, start a club of some sort, etc. You are FREE to do any of these things; there's not so much free time when you're in school.
ADDED: Having read your other questions and responded to one, I have to disagree with your evaluation that you "have a good head on your shoulders". A girl with a good head on her shoulders just having finished grade 9 is NOT planning on sleeping with her boyfriend. You may think you're very adult-like, but the fact is, you are still in your early-mid teens. There's still a lot of growing up to do.
maybe find a good private school and try to work out a good compromise, if safety or quality is their problem this should do it if money is the problem maybe if you want go bad enough you could offer to get an after school job to help
Sorry, so long as there is no physical nor mental abuse, you have choice or recourse until you reach the age of consent, which varies from 14-18 in the various US states.
You can sit down and have a discussion with them and find out their reasons or reasoning.
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