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When I was your age, I had the same problem. I never really made friends along the way, but as I grew up, I learned how to do so. Some of the tactics I learned as I was older, I know I could have applied when I first went to high school.
One of those tactics is to find someone like you who acts the same way. If you see someone who you think acts like you do or has a hard time making friends, too, you can just hang out around them. You don't even have to talk to them.
Most likely, they have the same concerns about making friends as you do. If you hang out by them, they'll probably see that it's hard for you too. And when both of you know that, it probably will make your situation seem a lot less difficult. Eventually you might be able to talk to them or they might talk to you. Everyone is afraid at first. You have to prepare yourself mentaly. Know that some of the older kids will make comments and don't take them personally. It would be ideal if you have a friend that you can talk to that is going to the same school. It would be great if you and this friend agreed to support each other the first few days. It doesn't mean that you have to be exclusive friends. You should take a tour of the high school before you go, so that you are familiar with it. Be brave and confident and don't show fear. If you don't know anyone the first few days ...just observe everyone else and smile at everyone, someone who is as afraid as you are will love it if you talk to them. Tell yourself that you are brave and that you are a great kid who will be a great friend to have. You will be great...don't worry.
Everyone is afraid at first. You have to prepare yourself mentaly. Know that some of the older kids will make comments and don't take them personally. It would be ideal if you have a friend that you can talk to that is going to the same school. It would be great if you and this friend agreed to support each other the first few days. It doesn't mean that you have to be exclusive friends. You should take a tour of the high school before you go, so that you are familiar with it. Be brave and confident and don't show fear. If you don't know anyone the first few days ...just observe everyone else and smile at everyone, someone who is as afraid as you are will love it if you talk to them. Tell yourself that you are brave and that you are a great kid who will be a great friend to have. You will be great...don't worry.
Then dont go. Or dont make friends, let them come to you.
Join a club once you get there. Meet people. Talk, share ideas and stop being insecure.
It's pretty much like making friends anywhere else.
Just be yourself, and don't try to change to make friends. Talk to people get to know them, don't worry about it. Just be careful who you become friends with :D Good Luck!
smile a lot and say hi to other people
If you are scared, so are some of your classmates!! well b nice and man up
im goin to highschool to Wagner Highscool in SI, New york and i dont know whut im gunna do but im joinin football in 10th grade im not too too nervous even though i kno literally 4 people goin there
just dont worry you will meet people in your classes for high school
High school isnt all that bad! Dont worry! I remember when I first went into high school I was kinda nervous of all those older people. But actually it wasnt as bad. Its exactly the same as middle school but just alittle harder in the classes. Dont worry, find people, introduce yourself. Be friendly, you will be sure to find someone you can hang with. Good Luck! =)
Well get off the computer for one
and maybe you'll make some.
If you don't know how to make friends by now give it up I was sooo scared to go to high school too. But no worries, it's an absolute blast! The teachers treat you like adults, and make funny jokes..haha You'll love it, and you'll find friends. Just take it one step at a time. Think at one class at a time, and one teacher at a time. Don't try to take it all at once, because that is what may make it seem scary. Step by step and you will love it!
Be nice to people and don't be afraid to speak up. Don't let people walk all over you, but don't act like a jerk either. You will see once you get in high school that it's a lot easier then you think. You will probably be in the same classes with people from your middle school that are just as scared as you.
Your fears are not without merit. It is a scary experience. The best way to face this experience is to be part of a group/club. Join band, choir, theater, or any of the myriads of clubs at school. This will give you an instant group of people that have the same like/dislike as you. You then need to be proactive and approach those in the club and invite them to have lunch with you and some appropriate after school activity. This will ease your transition into high school. Good luck!
it is fun, u will enjoy it just be nice to ppl and u will have alot of friends .
No reason to be scared. It is really not going to be as bad as it seems. My son was a Freshman last year-had the same feelings but it turned out fine. My daughter will be going into high school this fall and because her brother just went through it, she's not even nervous. Be yourself, join clubs because you will get to meet people. Do study-that is the most important part.
Relax and have fun! Don't let anyone change you. dont worry about it i never knew how to make friends either but on the 1st day i did jus play it kool act normal...and some1 will b ur friend cuz remember their r alot of others in ur same position so u'll easily make friends...wen some1 is being nice to u and u b nice back then they'll automatically become ur friend r at least dats how it happend with me
be yourself. i came from a private school to a public highschool and i was scared at first too, but then i met people and i wasn't so shy.
Don't be scared just kick *** until you rule the place....and it won't be scary anymore.
just be yourself
It's ALWAYS scary to go into something new. You have to realize that there are a lot of other kids who're just as scared as you are. They don't know their way around, everyone seems to know more than they do, etc. Get involved at school. Join some clubs and committees. Join the yearbook staff or the newspaper staff. Those are all great ways to meet people and it won't feel so awkward. Good luck!
Ya. Ussually you just say "hi, my name is ...." Talkety talk about stuff. You may want to stick with people who don't seem needy or stuck up.
If you just join a club or sport that you like to do, some sort of intamcy will be achieved, almost automatically. I was always afraid of 6th grade. I wanted to stay in first grade my entire life. In first grade Me and a friend could fit into a big tire in the playground and eat our lunch in there. Then I couldn't fit in the tire anymore. That's when I started asking the third grade girls for blow jobs and taking the pants off of a girl in 6th grade. I still try to fit back into my tire of innocence. I can't fit. I am trapped in this new world of 6th grade, and truth or dare, and I alway pick dare, because I don't care about the truth. I hope 6 grade never ends becaue I am afraid of having to go to a new midddle school next year.
It sounds like you are just shy ,so try and talk to the people who sit in class with you and sit with people at lunch. Even if not all of them want to be your friend there are other shy people out there who want to be talked to. You can find them.
Also, high school is hard on everyone even those that make fun of others. But it is only 4 years and I'm sure you will survive the transition. don,t be afraid of high school, it's just like any place else you might go that has strange people. be your self at all times, don't allow other people to influence you. use your own mind,the first impression is probably the right one.if you don't feel good about something or someone your properly right. keep your mind on your studies, friends will follow. if your a slacker that's the kind of friends you'll meet. but if your in to your school work then that's the kind of friends you'll meet.however you act then that's the kind of friends your going to attract.so just be yours self, keep your mind on your school work, and getting good grades, that's what's important.don't let any one make you think different. education is the most important thing in this world, and it's something that no one can ever take from you. and remember just have fun when school starts. i would like to hear how your first week of school went. so good luck. Source(s):
had plenty of first days when i was in school
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